Friday, January 19, 2018


today marks 5 years of being sober. i didn't go to meetings, i
didn't go to therapy, i didn't become religious. i just had an
epiphany exactly 5 years ago today that alcohol, or any other
substance for that matter, was preventing me from being the best
possible, most productive, most successful version of myself.

a lot of people ask me 1) for my story and 2) for advice, and this
year i'll elaborate a little more than i did the year before. 

let's start with the story:

1. i drank a lot in college [go, badgers] and was just feeling tired
from that life. 

2. i didn’t know what i wanted to do with my life/career and felt
like drinking every night was preventing me from figuring out my
career path. i was an art major, which doesn't exactly set you up
for success...

3. i interned at an art gallery in chelsea when i was 22. at one of
our gallery parties, i noticed that one of the gallery owners wasn't
drinking. while i was sipping wine, slowly losing my ability to
communicate with others, i just sat there observing the stark
contrast between my boss and his patrons around him. he was
composed, level-headed, stoic while others were drunk, rambunctious,
obnoxious, sloppy. i admired my boss and his composure and success.
i wanted to be like him—a badass boss...not a grown adult who makes
a fool out of herself when she's had one too many. edit: not
everyone is an obnoxious drunk. some people know their limits. that
night, a handful of the people went overboard and made themselves
look very dumb, which is why this moment had such an impact on me.

4. i was forgetting my nights. why live in the best city in the
world if you don't even remember what you're doing?!! i wanted to
have memories... not blurry nights with no recollection of all of
the "fun" i was having.

5. i joined an a cappella group — yes, that led to sobriety. i had
significantly more fun singing soberly every sunday night than
whatever partying i was doing the night before. the last drink i had
was at an a cappella retreat/sleepover in hoboken (lol). i blacked
out and barely remembered our first retreat. i regretted how much i
drank and how little i remembered. the next morning i was like...
fuck this. i'm never drinking ever again.

okay now for my advice:

1. if you don't want to drink, but still want to go out and have
fun, do the things you'd normally do for fun and drink seltzer. go
out and dance. do karaoke. go out for dinner. go to a concert, a
rave, a music festival, a birthday party, WHATEVER. just drink
seltzer. most of the time no one even fucking notices.

2. change your mindset: it's not the alcohol loosening you up, it's
the amount of time it takes to drink one drink. i challenge you to
go to a party and rather than grabbing a beer, grab a cup of water.
by the time you're done drinking the water, you'll feel comfortable,
happy, chill etc.

3. social pressure? be firm. tell your friends that you don't want
to drink anymore. say you're over it. smile when you say this;
you're happy about this decision and are excited to have fun sober
[which is way more fun than being drunk, might i add]. if they're
still pushing it/whining, then dump them. you don't need people in
your life who don't support you wholeheartedly.

4. find a sober hobby. mine is a cappella. maybe take a cooking
class, pottery, improv, dance. just make sure you commit and do it
weekly, and preferably form a community and deep friendships around

what's changed:

well, everything.

1. better relationships. with both friends and partners. when you're
sober, you're more aware. you feel more. you see more. you care
more. also, better sex. i can't imagine having drunk sex (sorry
dad). everything is just better.

2. my career. i didn't have a career before i quit drinking. i was
lost and so confused as to how i could become successful doing what
i love. how was i supposed to turn an art degree into a career? i
took to instagram. i put all of the energy i used to put into
partying into creating content, sharing that with the world,
building a brand, and meeting tons of people... all through an app.
next thing you know, i'm art directing branded videos at POPSUGAR
and then a full time producer. 

3. my happiness. i'm fucking happy. i feel great. i'm productive.
i'm never hung over. i'm healthy. right now, everything feels just

this post is ridiculously long, so i'll leave it at that. feel free
to ask me any questions. i love you all. :)

Friday, January 12, 2018


heading to a free people workout class tomorrow morning and
am reflecting on some of my favorite FP purchases from 2017.
this bright green puffer coat is one of them. i've been making a
conscious effort lately to buy clothing that is different. i
was tempted by the classic black, but the green stood out more to
me. it's little things like that that make me feel super confident
and excited about my style. i paired it with an athleisure outfit
that my friends at aday gifted me. this blue and black look with the
green coat is kind of mish-moshy, yet it goes perfectly :)